Bricks

When I hear the word “brick”, the first thing that comes to mind is my mom. I know that might sounds terrible, and I feel bad for it. She’s a wonderful person, and I’m so incredibly grateful to have her as my mom, but sometimes trying to talk or debate with her is like yelling at a brick wall.

See, she has the mentality that if she says something, that thing has to be done, no exceptions. And like, I’m totally on board for being honest and “being your word”, but sometimes she’s so unbelievably stubborn about “her word”, that even if something comes up that clearly makes it harder for me to meet a deadline she’s set or an expectation, no matter what I do or say doesn’t matter.

So when something like that comes up, and it doesn’t matter what I do, it’s really hard for me personally to stay motivated in general with her expectations. Like I do want to make her proud, and I don’t want her to be upset, but if I’m just gonna be let down when working towards something but like, say a teacher isn’t available after school, and I don’t get an assignment in because of it, regardless of how hard I worked on the assignment, I still get punished.

She’ll get mad at me for even trying to come up with an argument, and shut me down before I can even finish a sentence. It’s really irritating.

Again, please don’t misinterpret, I love her, and she does a lot of really incredible things, it’s just that this personality trait does not coincide with my own personality at all, and it makes things really hard for both of us sometimes. Do you guys ever have relationships like this? And if so how do you approach going about it so both people are happy?